Loving Care And Caring Love

I may have offended some of you readers with the statement that I made in my previous post: "So please, don't be offended when someone declines your help saying they can do it themselves. Be encouraged and grateful."
If/When I did, I like to apologize. It was by no means made to tell you what to do or how to behave. It was given as encouragement and understanding to both people in the same position I am in, and people who are around us or have "dealings" with us.

I know it all has to do with feelings. They cause us to assume or belief things that may not be true and therefore we act upon what we belief. Often things are not the way they seem. And more often, we don't ask for understanding or what we need to know because we trust our feelings. That makes a full circle that only we ourselves can break. Instead of assuming, we can ask for what we need to come to a better understanding and resolve feelings and not take on false beliefs.

We often blame the person that "gives" us those feelings and look at them to resolve them for us. Actually, we are the ones that have the feelings and should reason whether they are valid or not, and certainly not blame or associate them with someone else. After all, they may mean well and we don't know it unless we ask.

It is a two way street though as well. We have the right and even the obligation to tell someone when we are being hurt. Give them too understanding. I know that is difficult for it means to expose yourself, which makes you vulnerable. But it is better to give them the truth as well, so they can get rid of their false beliefs.

Communication is essential. It is reaching out to eachother. It is care and love. Where would we be if God had not communicated to us? :-)

Matthew 18:15
Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.