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Friday, January 13, 2006

Typical Female?



"Where feelings reign, considerations are lost."
~Corry.



Feelings, when acted upon, can have a detrimental effect on people and/or situations. The problem is, that there seems to be no amount of reasoning getting through at those times, because it goes against those feelings and only the consequences are being dealt with afterwards. As far as I have experienced, it seems to be typical female. Does this sound familiar to you?:-)

Proverbs 29:11
A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back.

26 Comments:

Blogger Kc said...

I think this pertains to all humans, female or not! (though it may be true that females have a greater tendency to trust their emotions, be they valid or not. This might be cultural in origin and therefore social rather than inherant. ) ;-)

January 16, 2006 6:51 AM  
Blogger Corry said...

Kc:

I agree that cultural and social it has been accepted (and has been taught and at times even been promoted, like in a mother-daughter relationship for instance), but Eve on the other hand had no cultural nor any social background. Still she acted on her feelings.

Nice wink, hehe. I love you;-)

God's Grace.

January 16, 2006 8:03 AM  
Blogger Seeker said...

I don't know if it's typically female, but reacting to feelings can be "knee jerk", leading to biggo problemo. If we can learn to WAIT a while, let the feeling sink in, or subside, then we will be able to evaluate HOW to react (or not)to the feeling. (Is this called self-control?)
I guess that's why Prov. 29:11, which you cited, says a WISE man holds them (feelings) back. Holy Spirit, develop Your fruit in us!

January 16, 2006 10:33 AM  
Blogger Corry said...

Seeker:

Yep, it's called self-control:-)
Better to hide in a corner and wait till ration comes back in!

" Holy Spirit, develop Your fruit in us!"
Great prayer! I join you in that prayer.

God's Grace.

January 16, 2006 12:23 PM  
Blogger Kristi said...

WAY too familiar, Corry. But, I'm working on it! Hope you get to feeling 100% better!

January 16, 2006 1:03 PM  
Blogger Kc said...

I would say Adam and Eve both had the same problem. Neither accepted instruction and both were rebellious in order to satisfy their lust. For Eve it was the fruit; for Adam it was Eve.

January 16, 2006 3:07 PM  
Blogger Corry said...

Kristi:

Thanks, I am doing fine girl:-)

I think it's something that needs constant work. Prolly even on a moment to moment basis. But...practise makes perfect and with The Lord's help I (we,(grin))can overcome this.

God's Grace.

January 16, 2006 3:10 PM  
Blogger Corry said...

Kc:

So you think the serpent would have had no success tempting Adam?

God's Grace.

January 16, 2006 3:18 PM  
Blogger Kc said...

Can't say for sure but I suspect not. Adam's weakness wasn't his desire for the fruit. If you think about it both Adam and Eve were guilty of unbelief which is the real problem for all of us, both male and female.

January 16, 2006 3:22 PM  
Blogger Corry said...

Kc:

So true, but it seems women already act upon the "feeling of unbelief" without waiting or looking for evidence, while men require more evidence before acting. And even when men act, I wonder if it is on a feeling or a consideration?

God's Grace.

January 16, 2006 3:30 PM  
Blogger Kc said...

We all act on what we believe. If a person is uncertain in their beliefs their behavior can be more easily influenced by a thought or a feeling.

BTW I love you too. ;-)

January 16, 2006 4:39 PM  
Blogger Corry said...

Kc:

So you think both men and women equally act on feelings?

BTW I knew you did (grin).

God's Grace.

January 16, 2006 4:44 PM  
Blogger Kc said...

NO!!! hahaha I think they equally act on their beliefs! ;-)

okay I'll spill the beans here. Christ is the head of the man and the man is the head of the woman. As men we look to Christ for leadership and He is perfect in all His ways. This makes reasoning safer because God is perfect and unchanging. The woman has to look to the man for leadership. He is unstable and unpredictable. The woman who is grounded in the truth of God's word will not falter when the man stumbles but the woman who relies on the mans perfection for her safety will learn to rely on her feelings at the moment because her own beliefs are uncertain. A man who does not trust in Christ is the same. He is not sure what to believe and will often act out of fear or lust. I say this problem is not peculiar to women even though it may seem so.

January 16, 2006 5:18 PM  
Blogger Corry said...

Kc:

This is so clear that even with my low IQ I comprehend it, haha.

Thanks, honey:-)

God's Grace.

January 16, 2006 5:28 PM  
Blogger Kc said...

Low IQ hahaha

For starters, how many languages do you speak? And what about the dead language? hmmmm? Who studied Greek here?

You can be humble all you like but you're not fooling anyone! ;-)

January 16, 2006 5:33 PM  
Blogger Pia said...

low IQ? i don't believe you! papu's right. you're not fooling anyone.

what we feel is not always right. i agree with seeker that acting on feelings are usually knee jerk reactions. learning to WAIT is something i still haven't mastered but i'm getting there.

hope you're feeling better today. God bless!

January 16, 2006 9:33 PM  
Blogger Jayne said...

I think it's so cute that you and KC respond to each other just minutes apart...as if you are waiting online for the other to reply! Do you two have separate computers or do you share one and race each other to the blog?? :)

Now, after reading all these comments, I totally forgot what the original post was about....(blushing)...but I know that my personal journaling has helped me keep control of those feelings for the very reason that I don't want to hurt someone else. And when I go back and read those entries, I'm so grateful that what I wrote didn't come out of my mouth!

Hope you are feeling better!

January 16, 2006 10:09 PM  
Blogger audrey` said...

Haha!
I was around earlier.
Then I was witnessing the most lovely tete-a-tete. I didn't want to disturb the two lovebirds ;)
Hehe!
How are you, Corry Dear?

January 17, 2006 12:02 AM  
Blogger Patty said...

Nice to see you and KC sending your messages back and forth.

Now, how is that bad cold you had, gone I hope. If not, it should be soon I would think.

Today we have temp of 54, and rain, cold front is moving in and possibly some snow tonight, good Ohio weather to be sure.

January 17, 2006 1:31 PM  
Blogger Corry said...

Kc:

Yeah, who studied greek here??Honey, I only had one semester of Latin:-)

Pia:

Hah, yeah team up with papu!!!(grin).

I know girl, patience is hard to practice. Sigh, I still can't wait to have it:-)

Jayne:

Kc has his computer and I have a notebook. So there is no racing going on, haha. After Kc's comment I had a lot of questions and we decided to Q and A on the blog, so everyone could benefit(?) from it:-)

Writing is a good way, so is saying it out loud. And then, by considering if what I said is true, being able to resolve the feeling.

Audrey:

Aww girl, you could have jumped in anytime, that's what this blog is for, we value anyone's opinion:-)

I am still not doing too well. It seemed to be better yesterday but today the cough is still bad at times and seems to be worse. My energy level is still down to nothing. We might give it a few more days and if there is no improvement by then...back to see the doctor!

Patty:

It's a little strange sending the messages back and forth since we are sitting back to back, haha.

No, cold is not gone yet but we pray it will soon.

Rain here today so far. It's gray and dreary. But it should be gone soon and the rest of the week looks promising:-)


Thanks y'all for your prayers and concerns. May God pour His blessings out on y'all:-)

God's Grace.

January 17, 2006 3:17 PM  
Blogger An Ordinary Christian said...

Well, female yes (your second to the last q on the blogsite). However, when you look at how the cultures have changed so much over time and over space, are men really that much less emotional? That is to say, so much that we just assume is the way that is should be, take the cultural role relationships between men and women. We just make assumptions in our culture without really thinking about God. We figure that the way it is now is the right way, but they figured before that it was the right way, so no one is really thinking, but just following their feelings. And men make the same assumptions, and so aren't they just following their feelings too? Men are like tide changes and women are like waves. Women may shift more rapidly, but men can be pretty hard headed and stuck in their ways based on their stuck feelings. Thanks for the observations that really trigger good discussion. Loved the tiger picture a whole lot. Thanks for the Christmas card. Thank you for the kind words on my site today also.

January 17, 2006 9:27 PM  
Blogger Kitty Cheng said...

Both men and women, being made in the image of God, are emotional beings (as God has both the masculine and feminine sides).

Yet I do believe that females express their feelings more openly due to their make up.

January 17, 2006 11:39 PM  
Blogger audrey` said...

Shhh...
The two love birds are sleepng now ;)
Please get well soon.
God bless both of you with strong health.

January 17, 2006 11:50 PM  
Blogger Joyce said...

What fun to read all of this. Quite a discussion. I feel I have been enlightened. uh....is that a feeling a good thing....or do I need to wait on that.... *grin*

Corry,
Thanks for commenting on my blog. It encourages me to keep writing!

January 18, 2006 12:01 AM  
Blogger M. C. Pearson said...

I recognize that fiend. She comes around every 28 days or so...sometimes more often. My poor husband. ;)

January 18, 2006 2:02 AM  
Blogger Corry said...

Andrea:

Thank you for your contribution to this discussion. Your thoughts are very perceptive.

"Men are like tide changes and women are like waves."
I like that analogy.
Unfortunately, the waves are often more destructive then the tides:-)

As you mentioned; if we were all thinking about God, (keeping His Will and Word in mind), things would go so much smoother and easier.

We are glad you got the card, sorry for it being late:-) We keep praying for you and yours.

Kitty:

Thanks for pointing that out Kitty. We all are created after God's image. We often forget we are not God though:-)

Yes, women express them more openly but wouldn't it be better to consider the feelings first before expressing them, by talking about them?

There is a huge difference in expressing them and talking about them.
Alot of times expressing feelings
makes things more complicated, distracts from the real problem or can even be destructive. Talking about them often gives the resolution needed by understanding they are invalid, based on a false belief or an assumption. And if/when they turn out to be valid, something can be done about it.

Audrey:

You brought a smile to my face, reading your comment. You are always in such good spirits, Thanks The Lord for you:-)

It seems we are doing better today and we pray it will continue.

Joyce:

Ehh..I don't know. Want to talk about it???(grin).

I love reading your posts. Please, don't stop writing!

m.c.

Hahaha, so true! It definitely has it's bearings on it. I think a special prayer for our husbands is in order. What think ye???:-)

God's Grace.

January 18, 2006 8:05 AM  

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