Words And Actions
The latter may seem the most difficult since it requires patience, but it has occurred more often than not that the first two are the hardest. We all may have a different concept as to what is best, but that is what communication is for.
When someone is about to do something several road bumps and pitfalls may be overlooked. Talking to others may bring those to light and could be a reason for changing the plans.
The tendency is there however to cater to feelings instead of logic. Although the person in question may see and even agree that his/her perception was flawed and not entirely thought through, they may choose to do it anyway.
I have no problems with that. Everyone is entitled to make their own choices. What I do have a problem with is them admitting their plan is not best, saying they will do something else instead, and as soon as they turn their back they carry out their initial plan anyway.
That is not only a waste of time, effort and energy of those who tried to help, but it also makes that particular person unreliable and untrustworthy. Let alone, all the grief it may cause them and others which could have been avoided had they stuck to their word.
There is nothing we can do about that. Only they can. It is a matter of choice, commitment and determination. A person is as good as their word, or rather their actions. Those speak louder than words.
I am grateful we can rely on, have faith in and trust on God and His word. Where would we be if we couldn't?!
If a man makes a vow to the Lord, or swears an oath to bind himself by some agreement, he shall not break his word; he shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth.